What are you looking forward to the most this year? (7 DAYS 7 POSTS)

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What are you looking forward to the most this year?

This last year was a rough one. They say what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger, and I don’t always agree with that, but I think in this case it fits. I have some hopes for the year. Primarily, I hope for separating from my husband this year. That doesn’t sound like a good thing, but it’s necessary. I wouldn’t say it’s something I’m looking forward to, though, as it’s likely to be extremely stressful and sad.

I think what I’m looking forward to this year is using the resilience I gained from last year to keep on getting back up on that horse and trying new things until I find what works. To use a couple psychology terms I had developed a learned helplessness that may have, in some cases, caused a self-fulling prophecy I hate to admit it, but it’s true.

What I mean by this is that in all areas of my life I have the strength and resilience to find the most effective means and not look for the perfect solution. I’ll give some examples of a couple areas that I’ve made progress in.

Friends – Rather than moping about not having any friends IRL I’ve started with a small thing: I’ve invited people to lunch. In the past month, I’ve had lunch with three separate acquaintances, and I went to a freethinker group to meet people. I was neurotically and obsessively worried about all the little details of what I may be doing wrong because I don’t often get what I’m supposed to be doing in social situations.

I can keep working on these and other relationships. I can be friendly with people and I don’t have to let the social anxiety I feel prevent me. I’ve decided if they aren’t understanding that sometimes I’m neurotic and quirky and weird then they aren’t the type of friends I’d want anyway.

Exercise – For the past month and a half I’ve consistently gone for a 30-60 minute walk 4x/week. It’s not made a difference in changing the appearance of my body (ie. weight) but it’s made me healthier and certainly helps relieve some stress and often I get satisfaction from knowing that I did something healthy for myself.

But isn’t there anything specific I look forward to?

  • I look forward to learning more about my daughter’s pending 3-day field trip to Washington D.C.
  • I look forward to hearing what specialty high schools my daughter got in.
  • I look forward to getting together with some deconvert friends from an online support group sometime this year.
  • I look forward to my son’s next band concert.I look forward to visiting my mom and step-dad again in New Hampshire.
  • I look forward to hearing what specialty high schools my daughter got in.

What do you look forward to this year?

4 thoughts on “What are you looking forward to the most this year? (7 DAYS 7 POSTS)

  1. A lot of my first thoughts are about fixing problems, rather than good things coming up. Health problems, new emotional problems, old home repair problems. I look forward to getting those things resolved, so I can just live without them hanging over me. Getting through all the work deadlines I have in the first months of the year, that’s another one, but that’s every year.

    My chorus is singing Beethoven’s 9th with the local symphony this year, and even though it’s a really hard piece, I love singing it. So I’m looking forward to that. And my spouse wants to travel someplace warm this fall, he’s pushing for Costa Rica. But that seems too far off to be real, so I’m not looking forward to that yet.

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    1. Yeah – I noticed it was hard for me to come up with things I’m actually looking forward to.

      That is great that you’ll be able to sing Beethoven’s 9th with a symphony. So cool! And Cotsa Rica sounds lovely, I hope you get to go!

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  2. I totally understand you look forward to using your acquired resilience to get a better life for yourself. The things you list at the bottom of your post, are also great things to look forward to.

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About Quixie

Hi! I go by "Quixie." Quixie is a shortened version of "quixotic," which means: "exceedingly idealistic; unrealistic and impractical." It's how I described my evangelical Christian faith when I started blogging 5 years ago. Now I'm an agnostic atheist who is trying to find a balance between idealism and reality. I write primarily about my mental health journey (I have bipolar disorder), and I also discuss my deconversion, mindfulness, exercise, music, reading, and other cultural topics.